Emotions....emotions...bah!!
So, I have been thinking about the past, and my experiences and what has been one of the biggest helps in my life up to this point...and it is....learning how to express emotions!
Let me tell you...cause I'm going to anyway...haha...that I heard SO much growing up things like "boys don't cry", "just get over it" and "you'll be fine" and "you're ok". You know...those things we all hear in life that make us push down and hide those unwanted emotions! I found over time that being the spunky, funny, optimistic girl was really not all it was cracked up to be. Yes of course, I enjoyed the popularity that came with it, but rarely was I allowed to be sad...or angry...or really anything else but happy! I got so tired of people asking me what was wrong when I wasn't smiling that I just smiled so no one would bother me. I played the role...I played a part.
Don't we all do this?! Does this hit home for any of you?
My awakening was through the massage therapy that I received that I spoke about in my last text. My friend Tess, (who is AMAZING by the way), told me that as people we hold emotions in our bodies. This is why some older people start getting hunched backs, body aches and other things of that nature. We have to put the emotions that we are holding in SOMEwhere! Whether you believe this or not....I was skeptical as well. Until all of the sudden I started feeling true anger, and extreme sadness, after some of my massage sessions. I was STUNNED! These emotions were not directed at anyone or anything necessarily at the time, as they had been held in for so long, that I no longer knew where they started or what they stemmed from. But that didn't matter...what mattered what getting them OUT of me so I could be happy and move forward...and also have less aches and pains! :)
The whole point of this post is just to say that if you can't figure out why you aren't happy...that's ok! Just give yourself some quiet time...away from cell phones, technology, and ANYONE...a quiet room/etc...and be quiet for about 10 minutes. Allow yourself to express whatever emotion you need to...then...move on! Of course not all emotions can be expressed in 10 minutes...but at least try to figure out WHAT you are feeling...then allow those emotions to flow at an appropriate time and place. This is an extremely therapeutic process :)
That is the important part. DON'T suppress any emotion that you need to fully experience...ALL emotions need to be released or they will stay trapped! Don't believe all this hype about pretending...unless the time and place is not appropriate...just let it out. Let it out...then...take a deep breath...and move on!
It is ok to be sad...it is ok to be angry...it is ok to be frustrated...happy...whatever! Just make sure you are cautious not to hurt anyone's feelings in the process ;) But...dang...get it out! Then...just be happy...calm...and peaceful...that is my favorite part :)
Love always,
Jamee
Let me tell you...cause I'm going to anyway...haha...that I heard SO much growing up things like "boys don't cry", "just get over it" and "you'll be fine" and "you're ok". You know...those things we all hear in life that make us push down and hide those unwanted emotions! I found over time that being the spunky, funny, optimistic girl was really not all it was cracked up to be. Yes of course, I enjoyed the popularity that came with it, but rarely was I allowed to be sad...or angry...or really anything else but happy! I got so tired of people asking me what was wrong when I wasn't smiling that I just smiled so no one would bother me. I played the role...I played a part.
Don't we all do this?! Does this hit home for any of you?
My awakening was through the massage therapy that I received that I spoke about in my last text. My friend Tess, (who is AMAZING by the way), told me that as people we hold emotions in our bodies. This is why some older people start getting hunched backs, body aches and other things of that nature. We have to put the emotions that we are holding in SOMEwhere! Whether you believe this or not....I was skeptical as well. Until all of the sudden I started feeling true anger, and extreme sadness, after some of my massage sessions. I was STUNNED! These emotions were not directed at anyone or anything necessarily at the time, as they had been held in for so long, that I no longer knew where they started or what they stemmed from. But that didn't matter...what mattered what getting them OUT of me so I could be happy and move forward...and also have less aches and pains! :)
The whole point of this post is just to say that if you can't figure out why you aren't happy...that's ok! Just give yourself some quiet time...away from cell phones, technology, and ANYONE...a quiet room/etc...and be quiet for about 10 minutes. Allow yourself to express whatever emotion you need to...then...move on! Of course not all emotions can be expressed in 10 minutes...but at least try to figure out WHAT you are feeling...then allow those emotions to flow at an appropriate time and place. This is an extremely therapeutic process :)
That is the important part. DON'T suppress any emotion that you need to fully experience...ALL emotions need to be released or they will stay trapped! Don't believe all this hype about pretending...unless the time and place is not appropriate...just let it out. Let it out...then...take a deep breath...and move on!
It is ok to be sad...it is ok to be angry...it is ok to be frustrated...happy...whatever! Just make sure you are cautious not to hurt anyone's feelings in the process ;) But...dang...get it out! Then...just be happy...calm...and peaceful...that is my favorite part :)
Love always,
Jamee
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