The Happiness Myth

Marriage isn’t easy! These are the hard knocks that I’ve come across, and the things I do to make everything easier. I’ve decided to start blogging more regularly…whether for my own mental health or just to share any *pretend* wisdom I might have. Ha! I enjoy writing, so this is a wonderful outlet for me to practice my writing, think about writing a book (which I’ve always dreamed of doing), focus on emotional intelligence and seek to improve my own personal relationships as well. So, I have been married to my husband for 4 years this month…(yay us!)…and it definitely hasn’t all been happiness and romantic gestures. He is a police officer and in the military and I work full-time as well. Life is good, busy, stressful and awesome. Mostly stressful and awesome…but also hard sometimes! My husband and I both have very strong personalities…like…STRONG. We got in more than one *small* (Ok, sometimes huge) argument while we were dating, so I knew the relationship would always be a bit ...

So, I don't write about happiness and love because I am perfect at having it in my life all of the time. I write about it because I seek for it myself, and while I am seeking for happiness I want to share what I learn with you. Work has been hard for me lately, especially being pregnant! I work in an interesting dynamic and am still not used to it. When I was in High School, I was the one who knew everyone's secrets. For some reason, all of my friends went to me for advise, to share their secrets and complain about others. I didn't realize how much information I had and it always blew up in my face. Often I was the friend in the middle and would let the secrets slip to the wrong people. I would often get in trouble for saying too much. Eventually I learned my lesson and would tell people that I didn't want to know their secrets because I couldn't promise that something wouldn't escape my mouth! I was aware of my weaknesses and couldn't handle all of the ...